Can people change certain things about themselves?My friend and I had gotten in a fight (this is the same fight from my previous posts) and yesterday she wrote a really sweet apology note to me. It wasn't fake, I could tell. And if you know my friend as well as I do, she is definately not the kind of person to admit she was wrong. No way. Not her.
When we had been fighting, one of the things I had said to her was "Sometimes you just randomly ignore me and I have no idea why. I can't even talk about it to you, and you leave me wondering about what I did wrong." She responded to me by saying,"Well, just because you don't like that about me doesn't mean that I'm going to change it. If I went around changing every single thing people didn't like about me, I'd be a completely different person."And so then I said,"I'm not asking you to change things people don't like about you. I mean, ignoring people for no reason isn't exactly a good trait to have..." Blah, blah.. so you get the point.
So, she wrote me an apology note, and one of the things she said in the note was that she was going to change some things about herself, and that she really meant it. Of course, I forgave her and things are back to normal. But I'm still wondering if she can really change this thing about herself. I'm still wondering if she's going to randomly ignore me again one day. Can she change it? Or is she going to have to practice... or something like that. Well, who knows. I guess it's just a good thing that we're friends now.
2 comments:
Yes, people can change. But the question I have is Why does she randomly ignore you? Good friends tend not to do that.
I think it's good that you brought it to her attention that she does that. I think it's immature to ignore people instead of telling them what bother's her. However, I think it's very mature for her to acknowledge that that is something that's not good and that she's going to work on changing it.
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