A little over a year later, I got pregnant with my twins. They were born when I was 19 and my oldest had just turned 2. My twins are now 10.
Fast forward a few years.
At 23, I had my now 6 year old son.
My last child was born a year and a half ago, when I was 28.
I have five kids. It isn't easy. My house is ALWAYS a mess. My kids fight ALL the time. My oldest argues with me ALL the time. It never stops.
It is wearing/tiring/overwhelming. It is my life.
I am not sure how other women do it. How they act so confident and sure. They don't seem overwhelmed at all. Maybe they are all on Prozac.
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I'm sorry you're feeling overwhelmed today. I know you guys are done having babies, so it can only get better, right?
Some people have said to me, in response to me saying I wished my kids would grow up because having little ones is so hard, that I would miss it when they weren't little any more. Not true.
I am sooooo looking forward to Justice (13) and Tristan (10) growing up. I do not miss any of my kids being babies. I don't miss all the stuff that we did while you guys were growing up. I have good memories, but I wouldn't want to do it again.
Having a lot of kids is really rough. You're bound to have days where you are overwhelmed by the fighting and the messes.
Hang in there. Before you know it, the oldest moves out. Then all of a sudden, the next one (or two, in your case) moves out. Pretty soon you're down to just a couple left.
Also, other women might give the appearance of making it look easy, but you also give the appearance of making it look easy.
In fact, often times I think you are doing a better job than I ever did.
I remember when Justice came home at the beginning of 7th grade and would cry because it was hard. She had new relationships to deal with, and the homework was harder, etc. She said that she didn't think other kids were having a hard time adjusting like she was. I told her that I bet one-half of the girls were home crying because of the stress of dealing with all these new situations.
The following weekend I ran into the mom of one of Justice's friends. She told me that her daughter was coming home and crying almost every night because of the pressure.
Often we look at others and they seem to have it all down, but others look at us and think we have it down.
It's okay to be overwhelmed. That's not an indication that you aren't doing as good a job as others. And I'll bet, if you could peak in on other women who have lots of kids, you will see them crying from time to time, or losing patience and screaming at their kids.
All you need is some rubbin a marine....Don't worry I will be there in May.
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